How We Cope
There was a story in our local newspaper this past week that is near and dear to our hearts. A wonderful little girl passed away last Sunday due to a brain tumor. You can find the full story at this link – Amanda’s Story.
I know many of us have suffered loss of some sort and it is part of life but doesn’t make it any less painful. It’s the emotional suffering you feel when something or someone you love is taken away is traumatizing. They way we cope can make all the difference and impact our healing process. There are many different ways to grieve and I wanted to share some ways to cope in hopes that it helps someone out there.
Typically the seven stages of grief are
- Shock or disbelief
- Acceptance and hope
This is a great article on how to help and support a loved one when they are grieving. Supporting a grieving loved one
Here are some excerpts from the article. Some things that I found particularly helpful:
What to say to someone who has lost a loved one
It is common to feel awkward when trying to comfort someone who is grieving. Many people do o know what to say o do. The following are suggestions to use as a guide.
- Acknowledge the situation. Example: “I heard that your_____ died.” Use the word “died” That will show that you are more open to talk about how the person really feels.
- Express your concern. Example: “I’m sorry to hear that this happened to you.”
- Be genuine in your communication and don’t hide your feelings. Example: “I’m not sure what to say, but I want you to know I care.”
- Offer your support. Example: “Tell me what I can do for you.”
- Ask how he or she feels, and don’t assume you know how the bereaved person feels on any given day.
Here are some practical ways you can help a grieving person. You can offer to:
- Shop for groceries or run errands
- Drop off a casserole or other type of food
- Help with arrangements
- Stay in his or her home to take phone calls and receive guests
- Help with insurance forms or bills
- Take care of housework, such as cleaning or laundry
- Watch his or her children or pick them up from school
- Drive him or her wherever he or she needs to go
- Look after his or her pets
- Go with them to a support group meeting
- Accompany them on a walk
- Take them to lunch or a movie
- Share an enjoyable activity (game, puzzle, art project)
These small acts of kindness might make all the difference! A loss or a traumatizing event is someone’s life can be immensely painful but with the help and support of loved ones, anyone can pull through and that is something to take comfort in.